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This is the end of Being5.
After nearly four years of sharing my life, watching my kids grow, making some of you laugh, some of your cry and most of you cringe at some point or another, it’s time to move on.
Lately, sharing personal stories about our family, and particularly the kids, has become harder. They’re older. They have friends. They have friends with moms who I don’t know, but who I know read this blog. It gets tricky. Very tricky. Life as a blogger is a good one, but it’s also a complicated balancing act of blog vs. reality.
There are new things to come. I promise that I’m not disappearing all together. In fact, if you look around closely enough, you’ll see what I’m working on… and (hopefully) I can share that with you by the end of the month. It’s still me. Maybe with less swearing. You’ll have to get together with me in person for that now.
Pushing the “publish” button on this post is much harder than I thought it would be… Deep breath.
With so much love for each and every single fucking one of you,
(you can always, always, always find me at firstname.lastname@example.org and i would love, love, love to hear from you.)
Okay, this was one of my top 5 favorite articles to work on… EVER. I really took some risks reaching out to my major Instagram crushes, and for the most part, they all responded. Honestly, I teared up with gratitude and joy as each email response rolled in, feeling insanely grateful to have a job that I love and to get to interact with people who I admire from afar. I’m so, so lucky.
Meet Instagram’s Coolest Kids on SheKnows Parenting.
I just realized that you might think that’s a pregnancy test, but it’s not. If you’re reading this because you think I’m pregnant, my apologies. That was mean of me.
My cold/flu/whatever made a quick wrong turn last week and turned into strep. Or maybe it was strep all along? I don’t really know. All I do know is that I feel miserable and have spent the past four days watching The Vow and feeling restless and annoyed. Ugh, strep. Where did you COME FROM? I don’t have TIME for you!
I’m still not feeling well, so I just wanted to say a quick hi, wrap up a couple of things and then go back to my coughing and antibiotic taking.
Here it goes…
The winner of a copy of MORNING GLORY by Sarah Jio:
The winner of a set of THE SURVIVALIST SERIES:
Also, don’t forget that there are two more days left for the 12 Days of Giving with OnlineShoes.com! Today’s giveaway is actually a Hobo purse. And, because I love you, I’ll tell you that tomorrow’s giveaway, the grand finale, is for a pair of super fun Dr Martens (I would give these to Janie, obviously).
I hope you all had a nice weekend and that you have a nice week… I’ll be in bed, working under the influence of some strong medications (my poor, poor copy editors) and trying to catch up on everything that happened online and in real life from the past week.
Sorry for the late shoe-loving post today, friends. I came down with a nasty, suck the life out of you flu in the past 12-ish hours and after pushing through a necessary trip to Target this morning (that was redundant. all trips to Target are NECESSARY.), I was spent.
So, here’s the short version of the Day 9 shoes from the OnlineShoes.com 12 Days of Giving. You can choose from the Men’s Merrell Himavat Chukka Boots or the Women’s Merrell Haven Autumn Boots (I’d get them in olive). They’re both waterproof. We love that.
Go HERE to enter the giveaway and read all of the details. You only have a few hours left, until 11:59 p.m. PST, so enter while you still can.
Did anyone win yesterday’s giveaway? Go HERE to check to see if you were the winner of a shiny new pair of Danskos!
Do you yell as much in the afternoon as I do?
There’s something about 4 p.m. that makes me feel panicky. It’s as if in that next hour, I have to get done every single thing that ever needed to get done in the entire world.
Dishes. Dinner prep. Laundry that I put in the wash hours ago. Clutter pick-up. Homework and reading started for the girls. Make the bed. Wrap up work. Send a few more pressing emails. Call everyone who left me messages when I didn’t pick up my phone during the day (I never do). Get evening plans in line. Beat that motherfucking level on Candy Crush that’s been haunting me all week. Vacuum the front entry. Again. Keep the kids from driving each other crazy, or at the least from killing each other. BREATHE?
Every day. Same routine. And, I’m yelling the entire time.
God, it’s annoying. And I’m pretty sure my family hates me for it.
So, yesterday, I decided to stop yelling.
Everett and I were home, waiting for the girls to arrive via bus, and I let all of the mess just be while we made a chocolate cake. He did most of it himself, got chocolate batter from head to toe and licked the batters and bowl clean. And, I didn’t yell about it once.
Then, we got dinner started. We worked together. I didn’t yell at him when he put his hands all over the olive oil covered potatoes. Instead, he helped me spread them out on the baking sheet. Then, I gave him the salt and let him sprinkle it on the potatoes himself. We prepped the ham. He threw away the gross, ham-juice dripping bag himself. I didn’t yell. We emptied the garbage together. Emptied the dishwasher. Loaded it again. And cleaned up the kitchen, which was now a disaster. All without yelling.
Instead of yelling at him to get out of the kitchen while I did the dinner prep and dish washing, I invited him in. Instead of pushing him away, thinking I could do it quicker and easier without him underfoot, I made him part of the process and as a result, I spent my time enjoying his company and teaching him where to put the silverware, rather than wasting my time hollering at him from the other side of the house to stop doing whatever he was doing that was bugging the shit out of me, for no good reason.
The girls got home and the no yelling campaign came to a quick stop.
Meg is a yeller. I’ve made her that way. After all, when your mom is yelling all afternoon, you probably will too.
She yelled. And I told her, in my best, trying to be patient, non-yelling voice (I have to dig deep for that one), that today, we weren’t yelling. Then, I asked if she would sit with me and color while I finished up some work. The confused look on her face hurt. I’ll admit that. But she stopped yelling… for a least a little while.
I don’t want to yell anymore. No parent does. But many of us do. It’s a habit that sneaks up on you and it’s hard to break. Some days, I can feel the yelling raising up in my gut and there’s absolutely nothing I can do to suppress it, no matter how hard I try. In fact, the harder I try, on those days, the more the yelling consumes me. It’s toxic.
Today, I will not yell. And I won’t tomorrow. Or the next day. I have to quit, cold turkey. For my family… and myself. Because as shitty as it feels to be yelled at, it feels just as shitty, if not worse, to yell.
No yelling. Can it really all be just that simple? I hope so. I really hope so.
Wait for it… wait for it… ready? Day 8 of OnlineShoes.com 12 Days of Giving is here, which means that it’s Dansko time! I’m not a great Dansko wearer (I always fall down in mine!), but I’m pretty sure that they are the official shoe of Bellingham Mothers, so I feel like I should give them another try. I think they have meetings. They must.
For the giveaway, choose from the Men’s Dansko Wade Boots or the Women’s Dansko Professional Clogs. I think it’s pretty amazing that these shoes come in so many different colors and crazy patterns, right? And, you get to choose which color/pattern you’d like for the giveaway! There’s a Dansko for EVERYONE! (I’m trying to be funny. Clogs are no laughing matter, friends. This is serious shoe business.)
Go HERE to enter the giveaway on the OnlineShoes.com Blog, where they also have all of the giveaway details.
Okay, which one of you won my favorite Clark boots out from under me? Go HERE to see if it was you. (I’m not mad. Really. Okay, maybe just a little.)